Please, Save Me: Why “Independent” Women Are Fed Up?

If you are connoisseur of hip hop music, then I’m sure you remember the 1993 hit “Captain Save A Hoe”. In E-40’s unique use of word play, he expresses his feelings about men who trick off on women. While E-40 and B-Legit believed that men are “b–ch made” for spending dollars on women less deserving, Suga-T came spit a verse that captured the mind state of a lot of ladies during that time.

I’m crossin’ up ni–as and b–ches

And even snitches just for my riches

Captain Save A Hoe

I ain’t got no problem with that ol sh-t

I gives a d–n as long as he’s payin’

It ain’t my fault because he’s sprung off my land

I’m cashin’ GA checks, go to the bank Hank

If your breath stank, you get ganked main

Long as a trick comes fallin’ down

That gets me all upset to put on my suit and clown

Well, fast forward to 2013, it is clear that there are many women who still want to be “saved”… which is why I decided to write this post. As I thought about various things I read and see on social media sites (i.e. Twitter, Instagram, etc.), I realized that woman are pulling all stops to secure a man that will make all of their financial dreams come true.  Whether it is by posting pictures of themselves half-naked or bragging about how much a “boo” spent on their last date, the thirst is real. Their main focus is to gain attention from men they suspect are financially well-off.

The flipside of this epidemic, however, is that some of these women are well established themselves. In the past decade, being defined as “independent” has been the justification for many women to no longer look at man for support. Women earn more college degrees and earn higher salaries in many professions. This solidifies why women are more apt to live as a single woman, pay her own bills, and come and go as she pleases. But, are the “independent” women tired of supporting themselves?  Yes, I believe so.

My belief is that woman who can take care of their own, simply need a break! A break from paying a car note or mortgage. A break from having to pay for her own meals while out dining at a fine restaurant. My point is that sometimes a woman would like to be able to sit back and be catered to. I, personally, do not see anything wrong with that. Especially, if you are in a relationship, men should understand that catering comes with the territory. If you are dealing with a guy that refuses to take you out on a date or pay an utility bill, for example, he needs to go! If he continues to expect sex and enjoy all the perks of being with an independent woman, you to need realize that you are being used and quickly end the relationship.

Please, be aware that everything that glitters ain’t gold. The “captain save a hoe” you finally meet may end up being a psychopath. LOL.  So, be careful with whom you chose to date and/or enter a long-term relationships with. If he’s saving you, he may feel as though you are obligated to do certain things. He may feel as though he can control you by constantly buying gifts and paying rent.  This is NOT what you want or what you need in a man. At the end of the day, a Louis Vuitton bag is not worth the frustration. IJS