Retraining Your Thought Process…

Dealing with everyday life can be haunting. Oftentimes, as individuals we take on more than we can handle (i.e. multiple jobs, kids, church ministries, etc). During our participation in these various things our mind begin to lose focus and its positiveness. If you get into a spate with your supervisor, instantly thoughts of “I hate you” pops up in your mind. Or when you have to tell your kids several times to “Go do your homework!”, this is a moment when a feeling of anger starts to takeover.  In order to get our minds back on the right track, we have to learn how to conduct reverse psychology on ourselves.

The way to begin responding to situations (like the ones mentioned above) in a positive manner is to retrain how we react.  Famed thought leader, Anthony Robbins says “the way we respond to a situation can change completely depending on the frame we put around it. If you change the context, you can change the meaning.”  This is so true. We are quick to react sometimes with harsh words and negative thoughts. If we begin to think of a situation in a different way (maybe from the other person’s point of view), then we’re able to see another perspective and make the choice to deal with it in a positive manner.

Taking a second to question a negative occurence with who, what, when, why, and where has a greater chance to make you respond and behave positively.  For instance, if you receive a gas bill during the winter months that is sky high, you immediately think “this $300 bill is too high. I don’t have the funds to pay this right now.”   To retrain your mind to think of the bill more positively, you can say “although this gas bill is high, I’m thankful that I no longer have a monthly car note. So, I can use some of that money saved up to help pay for my gas bill.”   See how easy that is!   All it takes is a minute to redirect your thoughts from negative to positive.

Robbins insists that the key to reframing your thought process is to pretend a situation is great when it isn’t.  It’s about finding what could be great, what you could learn or how you can use the situation to construct a good outcome.  In the end, retraining your thought process will lead to more positive results.