Oh boy! Don’t we hate it when people don’t share our same views and opinions. Even when you give a detailed explanation on why you like the color blue versus black, for example, sometimes we become furious at a friend for not liking blue. Also, it’s scary when you think about how many of us are challenged when it comes to communicating. Yes, we all have our own way of thinking, our own perspective. As individuals, we are all unique. We will not do the same things in our life and career. If this is inevitable, why do we continue to get outraged when a person don’t agree with us?

More so in your career, it is important to know how to handle your emotions. Even if you communicate superbly with your boss or peer, emotions can still get out of hand. You don’t want to lose your job for arguing with your boss. Do you? Keep your cool.

So, what is the best way to handle differences of opinion?

It is suggested that you reevaluate the meaning behind the situation (or words spoken). Create a quick “reality check” moment for yourself that will help you approach the confrontation more positively. To do that, ask yourself these questions:

1. Am I willing to do something now to change this or make it better?

2. What meaning have I linked to this in order to b upset?

3. Could there be a misinterpretation or a misperception? Do I have all possible information necessary to know exactly what this means?

4. What else could this mean?

5. What do I need in order to feel good now? Do I…

  • Change my perception?
  • Get more information?
  • Understand their view?
  • Know the other person cares?
  • Change the way we’re doing something?
  • Get a commitment?
  • Apologize?
  • Remember who this person really is and how much I really care?
  • How can I communicate my needs in a way that empowers my relationship with this person?
  • What’s great about this?

 

To handle a difference in opinion, take the initiative to rethink the situation. It is better to communicate with a positive attitude and find you two can agree to disagree. Once this is accomplished, your personal and professional relationships will become more meaningful.

 

Source: TonyRobbins.com/hourofpower